When asked why they might enjoy one type of dating over another, some responded:
"I prefer traditional dating because you actualy interact with the person and get to know them better. Also this gives you the chance to see if the person you are dating is compatible with you or not."
"I would prefer online. I think you have more of an oppritunity to meet more people. And you dont have the embarressment of being shot down if it doesnt work out."
"I guess either way you aren't sure exactly who the person is you're talking with. However, with online dating you can't see exactly who you are talking with and you aren't face to face. Online you have time to make up lies in person it's a little harder to come up with lies on the spot without it being somewhat noticeable."
"I prefer the method that has worked for thousands of years: meeting someone and asking them on a date."
"When you talk to someone online, things can go really well because you have time to think about responses. So the conversations may be really great, but then in person it can be tough sometimes. Also, if you have high hopes for something and you meet a person face to face, if there is no spark, you feel pretty bad. Traditional dating gets rid of that issue."
These responses correlate with the responses to the question about online dating fears and hesitations. Fear and problems with misrepresentation seem to be discussed a lot, as well as rejection or awkward encounters with those you meet online. Similarly, you have those people who feel technology has taken away from natural human interaction and face-to-face time, which explains preference for traditional dating over meeting someone on the internet. It's important to note, however, that online dating is just an additional option to meeting someone. It is useful for those people who may not leave the house often; for those tired of the bar/club scene; for those who do not have time to meet people in a traditional sense. Online dating can be a catalyst for a relationship, and all your time does not need to be spent staring at a screen. Technology and society today has allowed people to have more choices and decisions than ever before, and to partake in online dating is just another choice and opportunity that people have.
When asked if the dating relationships started online were better, worse, or about the same as dating relationships started in the "real world," 51.5% of respondents said they were "about the same." The second most popular answer was "slightly worse" with 18.2% selecting it. Interestingly enough, the third most popular response was "much better" with 9.1%.
Is online dating that much different from traditional dating? Results from this survey seem to suggest it is not. Of course, there are very obvious differences - meeting someone online versus someone at a bar or through a friend is just not the same. We can argue, however, that the interactions that take place between two people trying to get to know each other and not so different. The biggest difference, and also the biggest set back, is that online dating allows for more deception. It is easier for people to lie when they are not face-to-face, and when you do not know each other through mutual friends. The truth of the matter is, anyone can lie, whether or not you meet them online. The idea behind online dating is to find someone who is interested in you as you are interested in them, and to do this, you put your best foot forward. It's similar to going on a first date with someone you are extremely interested in. You want that person to want you - so you present the ideal you in the hopes to further the connection. It takes a long time to get to know someone and their intricacies. Whether you meet them online or in the "real world" similar interactions will take place.
When asked if the dating relationships started online were better, worse, or about the same as dating relationships started in the "real world," 51.5% of respondents said they were "about the same." The second most popular answer was "slightly worse" with 18.2% selecting it. Interestingly enough, the third most popular response was "much better" with 9.1%.
Is online dating that much different from traditional dating? Results from this survey seem to suggest it is not. Of course, there are very obvious differences - meeting someone online versus someone at a bar or through a friend is just not the same. We can argue, however, that the interactions that take place between two people trying to get to know each other and not so different. The biggest difference, and also the biggest set back, is that online dating allows for more deception. It is easier for people to lie when they are not face-to-face, and when you do not know each other through mutual friends. The truth of the matter is, anyone can lie, whether or not you meet them online. The idea behind online dating is to find someone who is interested in you as you are interested in them, and to do this, you put your best foot forward. It's similar to going on a first date with someone you are extremely interested in. You want that person to want you - so you present the ideal you in the hopes to further the connection. It takes a long time to get to know someone and their intricacies. Whether you meet them online or in the "real world" similar interactions will take place.
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